Do you love to invest yourself, your time and your gifts into others? Do you love giving, but hate it when the result is exhaustion, little or no appreciation, and confusion as to your true motives?
Adopt these healthy personal policies to help you make the tough choices, and deal with the tough.
1. If God grants you the grace to give something away (your time, whatever), do it!
God is not obligated to jump through every hoop we hold up and you are not obligated to jump through every hoop others hold up for you.
If God has chosen to bless you with the ability to serve others in a particular way, then serve you should. But if He has chosen to withhold that ability (for a moment, an hour, a day, a lifetime), accept His decision and apologize for any inconvenience it inflicts on others.
*Why apologize? Well, at least for me, I actually do wish I could say "yes" to everything - both because it is more fun and also because I truly care about the tangible needs of the people in my sphere of influence. But, if God says "no," my answer must be, "Yes, Lord. I, too, will say no!"
It's tough. The only way to stay in balance with God's provision is to stay in touch with His Spirit. I love Ephesians 5:18. "Do not be drunk with wine, but be filled with the Spirit."
When a person is drunk, they are no longer in control of themselves. They do things they'd never do if they were in full control.
It's the same with a Christian who is Spirit filled. We do things we would never do if we were fully in control.
The difference is that the drunkard's focus is on pleasing self while the person full of God's Spirit is focused on pleasing God. You truly can never out-give God if your sacrifices are for Him, through Him, in Him and to Him.
Marnie Swebberg is the online mentor to thousands of leaders worldwide. She trains: B.U.S.Y. - Best Unique Strategies for You. Learn how to maximize your life at http://www.Marnie.com.